A Holiday Wedding: The Pros and Cons

The holidays are such a joyful time that weddings seem like a perfect fit -- you just need to make sure it's the right fit for you. Photo by Laura Yang.

By now, Thanksgiving is a distant memory, Hanukkah has come and gone, Christmas flew by, and New Year’s is upon us! So if I may, I’d like to take you on a little trip down memory lane. . . .

Four years ago, December was Wedding Month more than Christmas Season as far as my friends and acquaintances were concerned. I knew three friends getting married within three weeks of each other,and they each had lovely weddings that reflected the festive mood of the bride and groom and of the holidays.  Since then, I’ve known a handful of other couples who have made December the month they said “I do.”

But there were some tricky logistics to work out and some guests who simply couldn’t make it due to other holiday plans.

So as you get caught up in the excitement of the season and start wondering if you might like to get married at this “most wonderful time of the year,” here are a few things to consider:

The Cons:

  • You last-minute wedding preparations might end up taking a backseat to your friends’ and family’s Christmas parties and planning — or at least get juggled around them.
  • For the rest of your life, you’ll face scheduling conflicts on your anniversary, such as more Christmas parties, kids’ pageants, traveling, sheer busyness, and so on.
  • A Christmastime wedding may make your potential guests have to choose between celebrating your marriage with you and celebrating the holidays with family.
  • At a time of year when people are already spending lots of cash on Christmas gifts, they may be a bit hesitant to also buy your wedding present — or pay for a plane ticket and hotel, which sometimes come with premium prices during the busy travel season.
  • The holidays can get chaotic enough without also adding the stress of a wedding into the mix.
  • Depending on when you get married in December, you may have to cut short or postpone your honeymoon in order to not miss Christmas with your family — or you might miss Christmas with your family.

It’s not all bad, though. There are plenty of pros to balance out the cons.

The Pros:

  • A wedding and anniversary during the holiday season will make the season that much more special.
  • Friends and family love getting together during the holidays — it’s the perfect time for a wedding-based family reunion. (One friend’s family all stuck around after the wedding and celebrated Christmas together for the first time ever.)
  • Decorating for a Christmas-y wedding can be relatively easy and inexpensive, especially if your venue is already decked out for the holidays.
  • Depending on when you get married in December, you may have to cut short or postpone your honeymoon in order to not miss Christmas with your family — or you might miss Christmas with your family.

Yes, that last one made both lists. Your own feelings about Christmas and your family determine which list it actually belongs in. . . .

I personally enjoy holiday weddings, but definitely have seen firsthand how they come with some unique challenges for wedding party members and guests alike. What you need to figure out is whether there are more positives or negatives in your holiday wedding equation — and whether your family and other guests will follow your logic.

Happy planning — and happy holidays!

~ Laura

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