Back in the day (meaning, oh, 2005) I knew exactly what kind of wedding dress I would wear on my big day: a softly flowing chiffon gown with skinny little
straps that crossed over a low-cut back. Peach underskirt. And bling, lots of bling on the bodice — mostly seed pearls, but I wasn’t averse to the thought of rhinestones, silvery threads, crystals.
On my wedding day, I wanted to impress!
Fast forward to January 2009. I was newly engaged, and ready to start dress shopping. And my entire outlook had changed. Spaghetti straps were no longer my idea of the height of sophistication, and I knew if there would be any razzle-dazzle on my gown, it must be kept to a minimum.
My personality had changed as I’d grown up, and so had my ideas for my wedding. Before, I’d never really thought about what I wanted my guests to feel, or how my dress could set the wedding’s tone. What I decided was that a simply elegant, less flashy gown suited my personal style better — and that it might just convey my desire for my wedding to be about everyone having a good time, rather than making myself the glittering star of the show.
Of course, that isn’t to say that be-beaded gowns or feathery headdresses make a bride an ungracious hostess!
What each bride needs to decide for herself is what her gown says about her when it’s on her. Some brides could pull off a Swarovski-emblazoned gown with panache, and come off lovely and unpretentious — but I would look like my dress was trying to outshine the sun at a debutant ball, while I personally faded into the wallpaper. It just wouldn’t work for me! On the flip side, I look my best in understates dresses, but some brides glow all the brighter above a bodice of seed pearls and metallic embroidery.
If you’re in the mood or market for a splashy, star spangled dress, you might have luck with one of these designers:
Eve of Milady
PLATINUM for Priscilla of Boston
Sottero and Midgley
For subtle gowns with minimal embellishments, try one of these designers:
Anna Maier/Ulla Maija Couture
The Cotton Bride
J. Crew Weddings
Whatever type of gown you’re hoping to find, good luck, and happy hunting.